The body decoder

Non-verbal communication is pretty hard to intepret and sometimes quite misleading.Here are a few things that you sometimes do or even a few things to look out for when trying to interpret non-verbal signs.


When we look at people we're not familiar with (in a business situation for instance), our eyes make a zig-zag motion,however with friends, the look drops below eye level and moves into a triangle shape.We look from eye to eye but also look down to include the nose and mouth and from eye to eye and across the bridge of the nose.
If you want to hit it off with someone non verbally nothing will bond you more effectively than mirroring someone's behaviour. This simply means you do whatever it is they do. If they lean forward to tell you something, you lean in to meet them. If they sit back to take a sip of their drink and look you in the eye, you pause then follow suit. The theory behind mirroring is that we like people who are like us. If someone is doing what we're doing, we feel they're on the same level as us and in the same mood as we are.However one should only follow their positive body language and not the bad ones

The eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they are similarly attracted, they raise their eyebrows in return. Never noticed it? It's not surprising since the whole thing lasts only about a fifth of a second


Pointing. Sneak a peek at what their feet and hands are doing ,we tend to point toward the person we're interested in. If we find someone attractive, we'll often point at them subconsciously with our hands arms, feet, legs, toes and upper torso.So if you find that that cute guy in the corner is not directly looking at you but he's upper frame is pointed at you I'd pretty much say you've got the cat in the bag ;)

If someone likes what they see, their pupil size increases and so does their blinking rate. If you want to up the odds in your favour, try increasing the blink rate of the person you're talking to, by blinking more yourself. To be insync with you the person will unconciously follow suit.

However with different people different non-verbal sign can mean different things, not one size fits all therefore when trying to intrepret a person by their body language alone the Rule Of Four must be exercised as experts will tell you.This means that you should look for atleast four non-verbal signs before making up any conclusions.So remember these few things when trying decode that certain someone.Good luck!