miscommunication...

Miscommunication is something we get to see happen all the time.It happens when one side doesn’t communicate enough information to us, or we misinterpret the real meaning of their words. In both case, we get a different meaning of their words than they intended.Because of miscommunications, relationships turn sour, people fight, quarrel and many heart and feelings are hurt and sore.

Why miscommunication occurs??? Usually, miscommunication happens because of fear. For example, a husband is out late and forgets to call his wife. The wife begins to worry because of the lack of communication there and begins to worry. She then begin self-talking which takes the form of her fears - is he cheating on her??? or did something happen to him???

Plus, assumptions also play a role. Without logical explanations to events, our mind switch to a fear-based mode where we satisfy ourselves with assumptions. Assumption therefore fulfills our need for a logical explanation for the unexplainable event and we tend to become locked into that assumption, believing it as truth. Hence, the wife, who might be insecure about their relationship, might remember the time when she caught her husband flirting with the secretary, and her fears will drive her to make the assumption that her husband must have gone out to meet her.

Therefore, miscommunication has become the cause of many conflicts all over the world. To avoid miscommunication, we must always practice effective communication. Effective communication is not only about sending your points to someone..It is about opening up so that the other can feel that you care, respect and understand them for who they are. In other words, effective communication is empathy or being there for someone.

Besides that, we must always assume that we will be misunderstood when communicating. Everybody tend to think that whatever they have just delivered out loud is received loud and clear by the listeners. However, the fact is that, everyone has their own perceptions and thoughts on everything that rarely 2 different people can think similarly. So, try and make yourself as clear as possible by using simple languages or examples.

Never tell lies. That is what almost every parent tell their offsprings. In communication, the truth is essential. Speak the truth politely without hurting others feelings. By being as objective as possible, and communicating about the facts rather than the personalities involved in the discussion, you open the door to actually being understood while giving another the opportunity to state their case.

When you are challenged to communicate your thoughts and feelings to another, always remember the bigger picture and keep it at the front of your mind. You will be more objective and free off pettiness by focusing on the bigger picture. And with the ability to be objective, it will be easier to view everything that happens, both bad and good, as simply opportunities to grow together, whatever the situation may be.

The most crucial part is of course listening. We must listen properly with every fibre of our being and feel deep into our hearts. This is entirely different from the listening we are probably used to for example when listening to lectures or when listening to a friends complain on life.

Normally, we tend to multitask; that is, we will have many other thoughts on our mind eventhough when someone else is talking to us. We also have a high tendency to interrupt or assume the situation before one finishes talking. Thus, this results in miscommunication. So, remember to pay all attention and LISTEN carefully everytime you communicate with someone to avoid complications and regrets!!!




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here is a video on miscommunication...show you how miscommunication can be disastrous! XD





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